20 First Date Rules For Men

20 First Date Rules For Men


1. Never compliment her appearance. Even if she asks.


2. Avoid saying anything unless it’s a quick DHV or a question.


3. Let her do most of the talking. Shut up.


4. Avoid “job interview” questions. (“What do you do for a living?”, “What are your kids / parents like?”, “What do you like to do for fun?”) If you absolutely must ask some, keep them infrequent and spread them out over the entire conversation.


5. Never lie. Avoid directly answering questions if you must, but don’t state untruths.


6. Never discuss any of your past relationships or sexual experiences. If she directly asks, give her two or three generic sentences then re-direct back to her with a question. Getting her to discuss her past relationships or sexual experiences is not only okay, but a really good idea.


7. Make sure she laughs, even lightly, at least once every few minutes.


8. Relax and lean back.


9. Never give a shit about how a date will end up, or even if you ever see her again. (Outcome Independence.)


10. Never kiss a woman on a first date unless it’s VERY obvious you’re going to quickly be having sex on the first date. Touch her sensually, but do not kiss.


11. Avoid spending more than 15 dollars. Zero dollars is optimal. Spending money is for women you’re already having sex with, not first dates. (Note: Women over age 33 will hate this rule and take great offense to it.)


12. Maintain good eye contact.


13. Smile. Never try to act “cool”. Act relaxed instead.


14. Have two interesting, funny, DHV-filled stories from your life memorized and ready to deliver in case she’s not a talker.


15. Touch her often. Touch her hands, arms, upper back, and if you can get away with it (and usually you can if you’re doing things right), her thighs, hair, jewelry, and face. Remember, don’t kiss herunless it’s very obvious she’s down for sex right now.


16. Be sexual. Talk about sex. Get her to talk about sex.


17. Ignore all the advice you’ve ever heard about “negging”. Issuing “negs” is only helpful if she’s unusually hot, like a 10 or a high 9. Teasing and sarcasm are perfectly okay.


18. Arrive five minutes after she does.


19. Dress well.


20. Pay the tab. Remember, you’re only spending 15 dollars at most so who cares? Even if she goes for her wallet, tell her to put it away and pay the entire bill yourself. Only let her pay if she insists afteryou do this.