Dating tips

• Success begets more success
• Now when I was trying to DHV by telling an interesting story (that isn't braggy) I had to sugarcoat a couple of them. Nowadays I have completely truthful stories for any situation that have ALL happened while I picking-up. You start getting out there and trying new things, you're going to have new experiences which WILL be fun, trust me. These will all compound together and you'll just become a more interesting person.
• WWJBD?
• WWJBD. What would James Bond do? Whenever, and I mean WHENEVER I'm in a predicament with a chick (be it text game, bar game, failed a shit test, whatever) I just say those 5 words. It has bailed me out so many times. Girls now think of me as 'sauve'. I definitely would never think of myself that way, but it works. You can use anyone you think is cool; Don Draper etc. It doesn't matter.
• Be cool. Calm. Collected.
• Do not do anything rash. That's it. The girl is a major flake? Doesn't matter. Don't end up texting her 'It's not cool for you to waste my time'. Never let them see you sweat.
• It's a big city.
• You don't have to live in a city for this to apply to you. I just mean, if something is not happening with a girl that you have a tinge of oneitis on, just have a look around. There are always other girls. It may not feel that way, but there are literally 1000s of HB9s EVERYWHERE.
• It's all psychological
• It's all in your head. You know when you're on a hot streak? Be it with girls, or work, or school, or whatever. You're just the fucking boss, right? Well that's all in your head. Biologically you are the same person, you just think differently when you're god tier. If you think you're the shit, you will start acting like it.
• Fortune favours the brave
• THIS. SO MUCH THIS. Applies to anything. Just go for it, luck always comes to those who ask for it. You reckon there's no way that HB8 is single? Well until you bite the bullet and go up to her, you will never know. It might just be your lucky day!
• The deal will not always be there, but fools rush in
• Pick your moment. You will get punished for going in to too heavy handed and you'll get penalised for taking your fucking time. You want to date this girl? Keep it casual, be aloof. That means no candlelight dinner for a first date, but also you've got to make some kind of move by the second otherwise it's the United Friends or Zones for you.
• Nothing fazes you
• Now sometimes when a girl brings you into her friends circle, there will always be that guy (pseudo-alpha) who may be a perfectly nice person, but because he's all comfortable with the girl, he'll be making sex jokes or whatever. He may try to bring you into the conversation seeing if you're going to chicken out and act all embarrassed, or give him a bit of taste of the game you play. For example, we were studying in a group and I was just giving one of the girls (in the group I don't really know) some tips. The guy goes 'You should give Sam a blowjob for that, he's earnt it'......now betas would say 'Don't be a dick, dude', but I just replied 'Don't worry, I'm making a tally'. Got some laughs, lightened the room.

5 Exercises for better eye contact!

Exercise 1: On the street


As a beginners exercise, determine fixed times when you will practice. Do try to improve your eye contact at all times, but keep these fixed times in your diary and set an alarm. Give yourself no way of forgetting. Make sure that at these times you'll be able to spend time outside.


The first time, walk around with one goal only: Meet the eyes of as many people as possible over your allotted time - aim for at least half an hour, more if you can.


Make a note of how many you manage to meet the eyes of, as well as what you feel. Pay special attention to how strong your resistance is to keeping eye contact, and roughly how long you manage to keep it. Don't force it.


Determine a minimum number of people you might be able to get eye contact with in the time alloted, and how long you expect to be able to keep eye contact consistently.


Second and subsequent times, you go out and get eye contact with the number of people in question, for the amount of time you've decided you can handle each.


You keep notes as before, and try to exceed the amount of time to keep eye contact with at least one second per person.


The goal is to get the time increasing slightly each time.


Also, when you do feel you can't hold it any more, aim to move your eyes slowly to the side, rather than jerking your head around. Pay attention to any "nervous ticks". E.g. I used to jerk my head to the side, and then quickly make some hand or shoulder movement while jerking my head to the other side, as if I had been "caught" and was looking nervously around to pretend I was looking at other stuff.


Aim to get eye contact with at least 10-20 people.


Repeat this until you can comfortably hold eye contact for at least 5 seconds on average, and have other people look away first about 2/3 of the time at least, especially women.


Do show some caution - it's ok to break of eye contact with people who seems aggressive; some guys in particular have a big problem being on the receiving end of strong eye contact from other guys; sticking to women might be a safer bet.


If you feel ok with it, smile after a few seconds. If they smile, always aim to returnn the smile.
Exercise 2: Catch her looking


Once you can complete the above, repeat, but when she looks away, look away slightly too, but keep an eye on her peripherally, and see if you can "catch her looking". If she looks back at you, catch her eye again and smile. Hold eye contact again, and repeat this exercise until you can hold eye contact the second time over for at least 10 seconds when you catch her looking.


Getting the number of people up in this case might be harder.
Exercise 3: Shop assistants


This one is easy, and you can probably do this one in parallel with exercise 1:


Whenever you go to a till, have the money ready, and keep eye contact. If you can do it, say at least "How are you?" and pause, while holding eye contact and smiling.


Break eye contact briefly as needed to enter your pin or find cash, but make a point to always look up and get eye contact again when you can. E.g. while your card is being authorized.


Get eye contact before leaving and say "have a nice day" or similar.


Practice this until it comes automatically.


If you're not used to eye contact, you will notice dramatic changes. Even if you are, your shopping experience might get transformed. In my experience, most people working the tills at shops get ignored. People stare at their bags or the till or their wallet, and generally ignore them totally.


When you give these people eye contact, a smile, and the opportunity for a tiny little exchange, you're in many cases brightening their day up far more than you'd imagine, and you'll see it. You'll get beaming smiles and bright, happy responses and often they'll fall over themselves to help you.


I first understood the power of this a few years ago when I first started on this journey, and made a conscious effort at it for the first time. I went from having no conversations with staff at the place I bought my lunch, to having them fall over themselves to tell me personal details, and being far more helpful and friendly, practically over night.


Where none of them would give any sign of recognition before, they'd suddenly spot me when I was heading for the tills, and open up a new till for me if there wasn't one available. They'd say hi to me when passing me in the isles, and they'd smile brightly at me.


While you're giving them a lot by treating them as humans rather than robots, they'll give you as much or more back in the form of boosted self confidence, and just a plain great feeling of seeing the happiness you're spreading.


In any situation where you have a customer - service employee type relationship you'll tend to find that a lot of people never give eye contact or acknowledge them, and doing so is both easy, because you're in a situation where your mind is far more likely to tell you it's acceptable, social anxieties be damned, than it is in the case of strangers you don't have any reason to deal with, and highly effectivebecause they are happy to get contact.


You'll also get a lot of confirmation that eye contact is ok, through regular enthusiastic responses.
Exercise 4: Signal a shared conspiracy


When you can do exercise 2 in particular, it's time to try to escalate. This is on the assumption that you don't feel ready to approach. If you can approach a woman, then hold eye contact and do just that - I'll deal more with eye contact during conversations some other time.


Escalating eye contact in a flirty way can be a killer skill. Start by learning to get over your fears so you can experiment. Some of these you might find cheesy. Doesn't matter.


Silent body language signals are a key component of flirting, and men are horribly bad at flirting (you'll find as you get better at reading people, that women flirt, or think they flirt, with men all the time, even when they don't really mean anything by it, but most men are oblivious until they get really blatant about it).


Flirting through body language is a playful way both of having fun even when nothing will ever come of it, and of creating or increasing attraction that you will be able to capitalize on as you sort out other parts, such as approach anxiety.


Flirting is in many ways about creating a shared "secret" or "conspiracy" between you, that creates excitement, and that implies clandestine communication. Think of the ways you'd communicate quietly with a friend when you shared a secret and were almost bursting while you were around others, because of your conspiracy. Strive to recreate that fun with body language.


Try the following:


Follow the recipe for exercise 2. When you catch her eye contact, attempt to make yourself do one of the following (rotate between the ones you can do, and try to incorporate more of them as you go):
Just smile normally for a few seconds before looking away.
Tilt your head slightly and smirk. See how obvious you dare make this (both the head tilt and smirk)
Smile and give her a little wink.
Smile, then gently bite your lips a little bit.
Smile, bit your lips then tilt your head and smirk.
Stick your tongue out at her a little bit.
Bring a couple of fingers up to your face and slide them slowly over your chin while looking at her as if you're trying to make up your mind about something and smirking.
Flash a huge grin at her.


Practice these in front of a mirror. Note that these are not intended to be enough for you to get away with not being the one that approaches, though some times you might intrigue her enough to approach you. They're intended to be a way for you to get comfortable with being increasingly obviously flirty and/or goofy while holding eye contact.


As for the other exercises, write down how long you could do it, what you managed to do, her reaction, how it makes you feel, and - if you were unable to do one or more of these, try and then write down how it made you feel. Re-read your notes and use them as a basis for aiming to do a little bit better each time.


Keep doing this until you can elicit reactions from her on a regular basis. E.g. smiles, make her embarrassed enough to go read and look down, have her copy what you do, etc.
Exercise 5: Don't blink first


Now you're definitively ready to make it a challenge to have her look away first.


As you become adept at giving signals and making it obvious to her that you're sharing something, you need to get to the point where you can keep playing around with it.


Don't stare her down, but this time, try not to be the person to look away first as often as you can. To do this in a playful way:
If she keeps looking, try to engage her in a back and forth play by using the techniques from exercise 4.
Escalate the intensity by stepping up to the more direct reactions, e.g. biting your tongue, sticking your tongue out at her.
If she keeps looking without looking away, try to make her laugh or otherwise break concentration. E.g. pull a face if necessary. Play with it - find what works for you.
When she looks away, "catch her" again and make it even more obvious. Keep this going for as long as you can.
At any point, if you're ready for it, walk slowly up towards her, while keeping eye contact.
If you're not ready to talk to her, see if you can get the courage to play the mysterious stranger: Write down your phone number and your name, very obviously, put your finger to your mouth in a "hush" gesture, walk past her and hand her the scrap of paper.


Keep trying this for duration - e.g. see how long you can keep it up. Do periodically ensure eye contact is broken. If you manage to keep it going for more than 30 seconds or so, play with giving her a "signal" and looking away for a little while and restarting. Practice until you figure out when and how long it's ok to look away while still easily getting contact again and where there's still noticeable interest from her when you do (if you time this right, you ought to see interest having increased when you regain contact).


Especially attempt to regain eye contact and emphasize the "conspiracy" if you do something funny/weird/"bad", or can mime out something that'd be in that category if you did it. E.g. pretend to pin something to someones back while winking at her. Or motion to something funny/ interesting.


The goal of this exercise is not to succeed in seducing her with eye contact and pulling faces, though seducing a woman wordlessly with just eye contact and other body language is certainly possible. The goal is to get you comfortable with flirting with your eyes as the primary tool, and to get you to a stage where you enjoy looking at a woman and playing with her, and where you're taking charge of the situation.


Focus on the eye contact, and try to empty your mind while you do it. Chances are decent, though it is by no means guaranteed, that you will find that focusing on the eye contact will help you overcome other barriers, and you might suddenly find yourself doing things you didn't think you'd dare, such as approaching. Especially if you create a "shared secret" type contact, as many people find that it creates a feeling of familiarity that short circuits what obstacles your mind would normally throw in your way.


Last, but not least: Have fun! This will be nerve wrecking at times if you're bad at eye contact, but it will quickly start becoming almost addictive to see how far you can push it. Eye contact is "low risk" in the sense that rejection is almost always no worse than having her pull a face and look away, and usually it's way milder.


In fact, a last little challenge for you:


Start trying to figure out what her reactions means, especially when she looks away.






Source: http://www.masculinespirit.com/body-language/5-exercises-for-better-eye-contact

Social Games

These games are a great way to hone basic social skills, all of which are critical for success in seduction. They're really easy to do in the course of your daily life, fun, and immediately rewarding.

I love doing this shit so much. They keep me in state during the day, and help build my library of reference experiences. Here's a list of the ones I've played before, and I'd love to hear seddit's ideas of course!

1. Peacock - Straightforward and exhilarating. You have to wear something ridiculous, and wear it proudly!
2. The eye contact game - This one is kinda addicting. Make an attempt at eye contact with every stranger you pass by all day—if you establish eye contact, hold it--THEY must be the first to break off. Challenge yourself to "win" this game more than 90% of the time.
3. “Hello” - Also known as the “newbie mission”, you merely say “hello” and smile at every cute girl you see. Don’t skip any!
4. Asking strangers for directions - This is one of the most under-valued social games out there, in terms of raw humor. You will not believe how ridiculous it is to watch people struggle to come up with directions on the spot, especially if you already know where the place is! EXTRA CREDIT: when they are done explaining, go the exact opposite way that they said to go.
5. Elevator challenge - Level 1: Get closer to the other people than you normally would (but not quite invading their personal space). Stand confidently in your spot—don’t lean on the walls/rail, don’t put your hands in your pockets or look at your phone! Level 2: Every time you’re in the elevator with someone else, make some remark. It can be anything (weather, elevator speed, recent sporting outcomes…), but you have to say something EVERY time.
6. Odd conversations - This one is best done with a buddy, although it still works solo. Come up with and exchange ridiculous conversation topics: each of you has to insert your topic into some conversation you have that day. For example, dinosaur metabolism….norwegian politics….anal fisting….
7. Numbers game - Friends heavily recommended for this one. Walk up to chicks and try to get their number right off the bat--no prior conversation allowed! This game is awesome because it forces you to focus explicitly on your physical and emotional calibration. Don’t be surprised if you and your friends actually do get several numbers; see who can get the most!
8. House party scramble - You and a friend compete to see who can meet everyone at a house party the quickest. Don’t be too fucking obvious about it (or do, and see what happens). Level 2: You have to remember all their names too.
9. Freestyling That’s right. You’re going to try and come up with raps on the spot, and say them out loud. Even if you sound like a complete idiot and can’t rhyme at all, doing this boosts the fuck out of your mojo. Even better if you can do it around some friends.

Feel free to post your own!

20 First Date Rules For Men

20 First Date Rules For Men


1. Never compliment her appearance. Even if she asks.


2. Avoid saying anything unless it’s a quick DHV or a question.


3. Let her do most of the talking. Shut up.


4. Avoid “job interview” questions. (“What do you do for a living?”, “What are your kids / parents like?”, “What do you like to do for fun?”) If you absolutely must ask some, keep them infrequent and spread them out over the entire conversation.


5. Never lie. Avoid directly answering questions if you must, but don’t state untruths.


6. Never discuss any of your past relationships or sexual experiences. If she directly asks, give her two or three generic sentences then re-direct back to her with a question. Getting her to discuss her past relationships or sexual experiences is not only okay, but a really good idea.


7. Make sure she laughs, even lightly, at least once every few minutes.


8. Relax and lean back.


9. Never give a shit about how a date will end up, or even if you ever see her again. (Outcome Independence.)


10. Never kiss a woman on a first date unless it’s VERY obvious you’re going to quickly be having sex on the first date. Touch her sensually, but do not kiss.


11. Avoid spending more than 15 dollars. Zero dollars is optimal. Spending money is for women you’re already having sex with, not first dates. (Note: Women over age 33 will hate this rule and take great offense to it.)


12. Maintain good eye contact.


13. Smile. Never try to act “cool”. Act relaxed instead.


14. Have two interesting, funny, DHV-filled stories from your life memorized and ready to deliver in case she’s not a talker.


15. Touch her often. Touch her hands, arms, upper back, and if you can get away with it (and usually you can if you’re doing things right), her thighs, hair, jewelry, and face. Remember, don’t kiss herunless it’s very obvious she’s down for sex right now.


16. Be sexual. Talk about sex. Get her to talk about sex.


17. Ignore all the advice you’ve ever heard about “negging”. Issuing “negs” is only helpful if she’s unusually hot, like a 10 or a high 9. Teasing and sarcasm are perfectly okay.


18. Arrive five minutes after she does.


19. Dress well.


20. Pay the tab. Remember, you’re only spending 15 dollars at most so who cares? Even if she goes for her wallet, tell her to put it away and pay the entire bill yourself. Only let her pay if she insists afteryou do this.

11 GUIDELINES OF A NATURALLY ATTRACTIVE MAN

1:/ Don’t act in a way that is contrary to your own rules of behaviour to impress a girl, no matter how hot. It’s counterproductive.


2:/ You get out what you put in. If you come from a position of respect and love for women

you will do well and have a smoother ride.


If you come from a place of authenticity and honesty, you will attract women who want the same.


If you come from a position of misogyny / lack of trust and just look to empty your spunk into a willing receptacle…You will get contempt and no love in return.


3:/ No one “deserves” beautiful women any more than you do.


No one is above you.

No one is below you.

Status, money, power mean nothing to many women. See rule (2)


If you make it your life’s mission to raise yourself to your highest level (including your looks, physique, fitness) and judge yourself by your own standards, you will begin to feel worthy and deserving of these women yourself.


Then they will come to you.


4:/ Men lead, women follow.


They feel safe and secure around a confident guy, comfortable in his own skin who leads.

They want you to step up and lead the way:


In the approach

In the seduction

In the relationship


5:/ Authenticity in and of itself has value.


Try to be childlike in your connection with your emotions and act according to how you feel

on a moment by moment basis within your rigid standards and boundaries:


The further you move away from this, the less effective you are.


6:/ Make it your mission to improve. Ruthlessly chase down insecurities, neediness, jealousy, weakness.


7:/ Persist. Don’t give in too easily. Women have any number of reasons why they reject /

say no – right throughout the seduction process.


It’s your job as a man to find out when they mean it (they often don’t!) . More experience will hone these skills.


(Sometimes “no” is very very clear indeed – Don’t be a rapist!)


8:/ You don’t need perfection in your approach. Do not judge yourself too harshly.


You can be nervous

Go red

Knees knocking


Breathe deeply, get control, and persist.


What you are experiencing is REAL. See (v). Women do not expect perfection / overly smooth approaches.


You can still take a girl to bed with any or all of the symptoms above. I have done so numerous times (I suffered from anxiety for many years)


9:/ Emotion, not logic


Never try to logically persuade a woman that she should be with you / have sex with you / do anything with you. Instead, change her emotional state and make her feel it.


10:/ Have other passions. Have a mission.


My mission was self improvement. It was unsupportable to me that I could walk

through the world and not feel proud, confident, strong.


It involved:


Challenging myself and growing (in career, uncomfortable experiences, going for hotter and hotter women)

Travelling. (This gives you perspective. You also get to see how easy it can be to meet women in other countries)

Confronting my demons

Seeking out excellence in my peer group

Reading quality material

Standing up to others

Finding out what makes ME tick. What do I stand for?


Now my mission is to grow this business.


Find yours!


11:/Love beauty. If she makes your heart flutter, let it inspire you.


Fall in love with her beauty.


BUT at the back of your mind, know that she is not your all

Be confident. Don't talk like a loser.

Be confident. Don't talk like a loser.

Don’t say puny fraises like “I don’t know if you are going to answer me…” or “I don’t think you will answer me but I decided to write you anyway…” It is some of the worst things to say. Don’t act like a looser. Girls like confident men. So be one.

Flirting with girls can either be one of the best experiences that you can have, OR it can be one of those things that you want to avoid at all costs. Some guys really do have a hard time flirting with women and if you consider yourself to be one of them, you need to be able to "fix" this area as soon as possible if you want to suddenly find yourself dating like never before.




You have to be able to build attraction and create a connection with a woman if you want to be able to go beyond friendship and have the chance of dating her. You cannot expect for a woman to fall for you if you cannot seem to get yourself to flirt with her. You have to allow her to have a good time when she is around you and by flirting with a woman, this is HOW you are going to be able to make her feel this way about you.




So, what SHOULD every man know about flirting?




Here are some flirting tips that no man should be without:




1. You want to see her smile.




You want to know that she is having a good time when she is with you. The last thing that you want to make a woman feel is as though she wants to get away as soon as she can. You want to make her want to stay when she is with you and to do this, you have to keep her smiling. This is one of those sure signs that you are heading up the right path with a woman.




2. She needs to see YOUR fun side.




Serious may be okay when you are on the job, but when you are out with a woman, you want to be able to shed that serious side. You want to let her in on your fun side and let her see that when she is with you, times are going to be good. This is what will make her want to stay with you and get to know you better. Dating and flirting should be fun and you need to keep it that way.




3. You have to be able to go from friendly to flirty.




Starting off things with a woman, it's okay to be friendly. However, if you want to take things in the other direction and start to get physical with a woman, then you have to be able to go from being just friendly to flirty. Now, this should be an easy transition so that it flows smoothly and seems 100 percent natural. You don't want to be too obvious about what you are trying to do.




It's perfectly natural to see flirting with women as something that you are not naturally good at.




Most guys really aren't natural flirts with women. If you want to be able to go beyond friends with women, you have to learn how to make yourself become a guy that can flirt with women with no problem at all.