20 First Date Rules For Men

20 First Date Rules For Men


1. Never compliment her appearance. Even if she asks.


2. Avoid saying anything unless it’s a quick DHV or a question.


3. Let her do most of the talking. Shut up.


4. Avoid “job interview” questions. (“What do you do for a living?”, “What are your kids / parents like?”, “What do you like to do for fun?”) If you absolutely must ask some, keep them infrequent and spread them out over the entire conversation.


5. Never lie. Avoid directly answering questions if you must, but don’t state untruths.


6. Never discuss any of your past relationships or sexual experiences. If she directly asks, give her two or three generic sentences then re-direct back to her with a question. Getting her to discuss her past relationships or sexual experiences is not only okay, but a really good idea.


7. Make sure she laughs, even lightly, at least once every few minutes.


8. Relax and lean back.


9. Never give a shit about how a date will end up, or even if you ever see her again. (Outcome Independence.)


10. Never kiss a woman on a first date unless it’s VERY obvious you’re going to quickly be having sex on the first date. Touch her sensually, but do not kiss.


11. Avoid spending more than 15 dollars. Zero dollars is optimal. Spending money is for women you’re already having sex with, not first dates. (Note: Women over age 33 will hate this rule and take great offense to it.)


12. Maintain good eye contact.


13. Smile. Never try to act “cool”. Act relaxed instead.


14. Have two interesting, funny, DHV-filled stories from your life memorized and ready to deliver in case she’s not a talker.


15. Touch her often. Touch her hands, arms, upper back, and if you can get away with it (and usually you can if you’re doing things right), her thighs, hair, jewelry, and face. Remember, don’t kiss herunless it’s very obvious she’s down for sex right now.


16. Be sexual. Talk about sex. Get her to talk about sex.


17. Ignore all the advice you’ve ever heard about “negging”. Issuing “negs” is only helpful if she’s unusually hot, like a 10 or a high 9. Teasing and sarcasm are perfectly okay.


18. Arrive five minutes after she does.


19. Dress well.


20. Pay the tab. Remember, you’re only spending 15 dollars at most so who cares? Even if she goes for her wallet, tell her to put it away and pay the entire bill yourself. Only let her pay if she insists afteryou do this.

11 GUIDELINES OF A NATURALLY ATTRACTIVE MAN

1:/ Don’t act in a way that is contrary to your own rules of behaviour to impress a girl, no matter how hot. It’s counterproductive.


2:/ You get out what you put in. If you come from a position of respect and love for women

you will do well and have a smoother ride.


If you come from a place of authenticity and honesty, you will attract women who want the same.


If you come from a position of misogyny / lack of trust and just look to empty your spunk into a willing receptacle…You will get contempt and no love in return.


3:/ No one “deserves” beautiful women any more than you do.


No one is above you.

No one is below you.

Status, money, power mean nothing to many women. See rule (2)


If you make it your life’s mission to raise yourself to your highest level (including your looks, physique, fitness) and judge yourself by your own standards, you will begin to feel worthy and deserving of these women yourself.


Then they will come to you.


4:/ Men lead, women follow.


They feel safe and secure around a confident guy, comfortable in his own skin who leads.

They want you to step up and lead the way:


In the approach

In the seduction

In the relationship


5:/ Authenticity in and of itself has value.


Try to be childlike in your connection with your emotions and act according to how you feel

on a moment by moment basis within your rigid standards and boundaries:


The further you move away from this, the less effective you are.


6:/ Make it your mission to improve. Ruthlessly chase down insecurities, neediness, jealousy, weakness.


7:/ Persist. Don’t give in too easily. Women have any number of reasons why they reject /

say no – right throughout the seduction process.


It’s your job as a man to find out when they mean it (they often don’t!) . More experience will hone these skills.


(Sometimes “no” is very very clear indeed – Don’t be a rapist!)


8:/ You don’t need perfection in your approach. Do not judge yourself too harshly.


You can be nervous

Go red

Knees knocking


Breathe deeply, get control, and persist.


What you are experiencing is REAL. See (v). Women do not expect perfection / overly smooth approaches.


You can still take a girl to bed with any or all of the symptoms above. I have done so numerous times (I suffered from anxiety for many years)


9:/ Emotion, not logic


Never try to logically persuade a woman that she should be with you / have sex with you / do anything with you. Instead, change her emotional state and make her feel it.


10:/ Have other passions. Have a mission.


My mission was self improvement. It was unsupportable to me that I could walk

through the world and not feel proud, confident, strong.


It involved:


Challenging myself and growing (in career, uncomfortable experiences, going for hotter and hotter women)

Travelling. (This gives you perspective. You also get to see how easy it can be to meet women in other countries)

Confronting my demons

Seeking out excellence in my peer group

Reading quality material

Standing up to others

Finding out what makes ME tick. What do I stand for?


Now my mission is to grow this business.


Find yours!


11:/Love beauty. If she makes your heart flutter, let it inspire you.


Fall in love with her beauty.


BUT at the back of your mind, know that she is not your all